Am sure you have
watched the film Beauty and the Beast? it was a kind of folktale that has been
repackaged into movies and cartoons but the truth and reality is that we have
modern day reenactments of the ‘’beauty and the beast’’ the only difference is
that the beasts we have now are actually men that are beasts in their demeanor, mannerism, character etc…
Am I attempting
to take sides with the female folks? Yes
I am doing just that especially here in Africa. The society here [Africa] is fashioned
and run in such a way as not to favor our female folks. There are more crimes
against them in this part of the world and there are only archaic laws to
protect them but where there are laws the machinery of implementation is always
sometimes influenced negatively by religion, politics or just plain lethargy.
So the crux of
the matter is that some of us have sisters, daughters, friends and
acquaintances that might one day get attached to a man or cross the path of the
male folk and I should quickly add that not all men are wicked, manner less and
of course not all our female are beyond reproach too; but it has still got to
be mentioned all the same that as a lady be careful that you do not fall in
love with a monster.
Who is a monster?
The man who hits
his wife or fiancée
The man who
cheats on his wife and family
The man who
mortgages the life of his family on some ephemeral game, [gambling and the
likes]
and so on and so
forth.
It is a misnomer
for you to trust the chemistry you feel for a person and base your judgment on
that alone as a measure and means of deciding to marry the person, emotion is
actually a bad leader and it will help lead to relational ‘’doom’ but the
emotion can also be a good leader because it can come in handy where we need to
be compassionate.
Love is not
usually healthy and will not blossom well when the object to which it is been
directed is a monster. Am sure we have head numerous stories about animals killing
their trainers, well its not because the animals are wicked or not properly trained but its because the
nature of the Animal is to kill regardless of who took care of it from babyhood.
Therefore you must know that your love for someone might not actually prevent
that person from hitting you or doing any of the really bad things people do to
their spouses.
So be careful,
less you marry a monster spouse and waste your love energy on the wrong person
[YES I believe that true and absolute love
changes the hardened hearts, but people have lost their lives in this process.
Will you want to go through with being the savior of a monster? If NO then
strategize well]
People who have
genuinely loved but end up being disappointed have remained influenced in such
a way that they find it difficult trusting or loving g other people again.
So be careful
not to marry a ‘MONSTER’
How do you know
a MONSTER? Its another story for another day but you would be wise to ask the
person who created your intended or ‘’toaster’’ to give
you a sneak preview of who they really are so as to know if the fellow is a
Monster or not...
Well, life is
too short living it correcting the mistakes that were made in the bid to enjoy
life itself.
Enjoy your life
and surround yourself with people who will bring out the best in you.
Cheers
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